I asked my husband once why he had dreamed of climbing Mt. Everest when he was a young man.
"I don't know," he said thoughtfully. "Maybe because it's POSSIBLE."
It's possible because a man named Sir Edmund Hillary proved it is. He and his companion Tenzing Norgay did what no one had ever done...and opened the way for climbers and dreamers to make it to the top of the world because it COULD be done. And while most people see the failed attempts at Everest as reason not to try, for some undaunted souls, the fact that some HAVE made it is enough for them to embark on the journey of a lifetime.
Last week, Tom and I felt as if we'd made it to the top of Everest. You see, we had a "second honeymoon" in the very area we'd spent our first one - in the mountains of Colorado....and this time we had a vantage point that allowed us to look back and see the climb we've been on. In the scramble to the top - getting our last child out the door and finishing a huge work project - we suddenly realized that the possibilities we'd only dreamed of in the beginning had become a reality. It was unbelievably exhilarating, and we acted just as giddy together as we did the first time around!
Back when we were a couple of kids in a Datsun pickup on our way to Breckenridge in 1983, we had a lot of hope and just enough courage to believe that we could make it on our own epic journey. Unfortunately, we saw a lot of attempts by others that didn't end well. Marriages that started out strong but fell victim to storms, fatigue or injury along the way. Each casualty put a small measure of fear in our hearts, knowing how easily it could happen to us. That could be us, we'd say. Don't let it be us.
So we grabbed hands and just pressed on. Through college classes, babies, sicknesses, the shoulder pads and perms of the 90's, through the kids' school years, the failed businesses, the empty bank accounts and flat tires. Thankfully, along the steep path there have been enough sunsets and flowers, tea parties and sand castles, knowing smiles and inside jokes to make each step seem doable. Possible.
With each step, we learned what IS possible. And I hold up the Flag of Possibility for you today so that you can believe, and take another step yourself...no matter how faltering it may be. Keep pressing on.
It is possible.... to have an epic love affair with the person you are married to.
It is possible to re-ignite your passion for one another, even after a long, bleak season.
It is possible to make it through financial stress, parenting, illness and loss. It is possible to be faithful to your spouse.
It is possible to forgive.
It is possible to raise children who don't rebel.
It is possible to send children to public school and see them remain not only true to their faith, but be leaders of their peers.
It is possible to have a good family in spite of the mom being easily distracted by clouds, butterflies and 20% off discount signs.
It is possible that being organized is overrated.
It is possible to know that God is deeply in love with you, and cares for you....infinitely.
It is possible to enjoy your kids' teenage years.
It is possible that your really naughty, exasperating toddler will become an amazing young adult.
It is possible to trick people into thinking you're an awesome housekeeper by occasionally hiding clutter in closets.
It is possible to find small nuggets of joy each day, if you take the time to look for them.
It is possible to live for Jesus and still have a regular job.
It is *possible* to multi-task, but *probably* not well.
It is possible to enjoy each season of life, especially when you realize that none of them lasts forever.
It is possible for dreams to come true if you're willing to work.
It is possible to be a late bloomer.
It is possible that you'll face some really hard things that will defy explanation and easy answers.
It is possible for a family to love being together.
It is possible for a marriage to last forever - and still be sweet.
It is possible to reach the top of a mountain, one small step at a time.
What are YOUR possiblities? Maybe you're in a tough spot and it's hard to see any around you. I know just what that feels like, because I've been there, many times. And yet, here I am....looking back and seeing just how many possibilities actually became realities. God is faithful and is always working behind the scenes to give you strength for the journey.
Today's Small Thing is to grab a handful of hope and take a deep breath of courage.
With each step you take, you are that much closer to the top of your mountain. Knowing that others have gone before you - and made it - proves that it CAN be done. It IS possible...and you're on your way to planting your own flag at the summit, I promise. Keep fighting for your marriage, keep looking for moments of joy, keep on being a good mom today. Keep dreaming and praying and doing. Matt. 19:26 "but with God, all things are possible."
It is possible that the best is yet to come.