There are three "Nature Calls" that are indelibly printed on our souls. They are in the form of questions that we begin asking early in life. If you have children, they are already asking you these questions, but often in ways we don't recognize. Creating a Home Sanctuary is all about answering those deep questions of the heart for each family member. These answers are the foundation that makes your home "feel good."
The first important Question that must be answered is this:
"Where do I belong?"
Your children, your spouse, your loved ones all need to know the answer:
"You belong right here. You belong to this family. You belong to me."
That's a powerful, wonderful thought. One really really simple way to create a sense of belonging is by getting to know each other deeply. See, I have a special bond with the people who know me best, those who have taken the time to see the real me. And because I know how much my husband loves it when I clean the garage or ask him about hockey, his sense of belonging goes off the chart when I do those things. My son knows he belongs when I discuss airplanes with him or listen to some new music he's found.
But there's another way to express belonging, and that's Today's Small Thing. It's so easy that its significance is often overlooked.
A deep sense of belonging happens when you share experiences and make memories together. And I'm not talking about ski trips or visits to Disney World.
I'm talking about the daily moments that take much less effort, but reap far greater rewards.
It's the popcorn and movies on the couch.
It's the board games.
The dish washing.
The living room wrestling matches.
The bed time stories.
It's the things you do together that are unique to your family.
Making memories is less about creating photo-ops and more about building a life which, when reflected upon, gives you that warm feeling of belonging to something special. The life you make will never be picture-perfect, but when you've made it together, well.
You really have something there.
Today's Small Thing: Do something with someone you love...to build a library of good memories. Share a story, split a cookie, play a game. You choose! Let them know how glad you are that they belong to you.
Then let us know what you're doing! After all, we Company Girls belong to each other.
Can you think of other ways to express belonging? Share your ideas, too!
Song of the Day: You Belong to Me, Jason Wade (Lifehouse)