Who could resist these two gorgeous hunks of the 80's? Love that sequined vest, Fab.
It's too bad that Milli Vanilli went down in history as the Musical Group that Really Wasn't. I guess the real singers weren't as hot as Rob and Fab, who lip-sync'd their way to hit songs, then disappeared when the truth came out. There was a lot of blame going around, not to mention lawsuits.
The Blame Game is one that many of us are pretty good at. Even small children quickly learn how to point the finger at a sibling or circumstances beyond their control as reasons why they can't comply with instructions or why something got broken.
I often use the Blame Card to come up with plausible reasons for my own shortcomings.
My house doesn't look nice because I can't afford new furniture.
I can't get a "real" job because I don't have a college degree.
I can't be a good mom because my kids are too needy.
I'm not a good cook because I don't have nice pots and pans.
I don't have many friends because I have to work so much.
I don't manage money well because I wasn't taught how to.
I can't fix that because it's not my job.
All this stress is making me short-tempered and irritable.
My house is messy because no one helps me.
The only problem with playing the Blame Game is that it leaves me in a state of inertia. It blocks my mind from thinking big thoughts. It binds me to the past. It makes me bitter. It affects my home sanctuary negatively.
But I don't want to be like that.
Today's Small Thing is to think about something in your life that you're blaming someone or something for - that's keeping you from taking responsibility and moving on.
It might be as small as refusing to apply WD40 to a squeaky drawer because "it's your husband's job." Or it could be that blaming your man for not taking leadership is keeping your from being a proactive parent? Maybe you're thinking that if only you had a little more help around here, things would be different. Or that if your parents had been better examples you'd make better decisions.
I've got two things I want to work on today. One is simple: I've been blaming my droopy climbing roses on my husband for not helping me tie them to a trellis. I'm going to stop blaming him and just get my son to help me. The other is a little more personal and spiritual, but I'm ready to stop blaming and start taking some responsibility. And you know, I feel freer already!
I tell you, there is POWER in letting go of blame.
POINTS: 40 for Naming your Blame. Perhaps write it down or verbalize it. Bring it to the Lord.
BONUS: 20 for taking action. Decide to let it go by tearing up the paper, forgiving the person who's wronged you, and taking some kind of action that shows you're going to get past this thing.
What will Blame will you let go of today? Enjoy the freedom that will come!
